7 Ways to Supporting Loved Ones with Depression

Depression is a global concern, with over 300 million people estimated to suffer from it, according to the World Health Organization. This figure, from 2018, is likely higher today. While this isn’t uplifting news, the increased awareness of depression is encouraging. It’s becoming a topic of discussion even in popular TV shows like “Xiao Huan Xi,” which features a character dealing with depression. More attention means more understanding, which can aid in preventing or alleviating depression.

Previously, we’ve shared numerous articles on how to recognize and cope with depression, but these have mainly focused on the perspective of those experiencing it. However, there’s another group deeply concerned about depression: the friends and family of those with depression. They want to offer support but often don’t know how. Let’s explore this issue.

Understanding Their Feelings

Some people have a limited understanding of depression, equating prolonged sadness with weakness. Comments like, “Just be strong, and you’ll be fine,” can be unhelpful. Depression is a complex mental and physiological condition; it’s not just a matter of willpower. The best approach is to engage in conversation, encourage them to express their feelings, and listen without judgment. In some cases, depressed individuals may remain silent for extended periods, lacking the desire to talk. In such situations, just being there for them is crucial.

Offering Comfort and Advice

When facing someone with depression, it’s natural to want to provide encouragement and advice. However, common phrases like, “Don’t dwell on negative thoughts, focus on the positive,” often fall short. Depression isn’t merely about changing one’s thoughts; for some severely depressed individuals, they’ve lost the ability to experience joy. The most effective approach is to ask, “How can I assist you?” This question allows you to identify their immediate needs and offer tailored support.

Authentic Empathy

During conversations, we often employ techniques like empathy or stating, “I understand how you feel.” Depressed individuals are highly sensitive and can discern genuine empathy from mere words. If you genuinely empathize, say so, but your facial expressions and body language should validate your words. If you don’t truly understand their experience, it’s best not to pretend. Faking it can create distance.

Sharing Positivity

In my own battle with depression, a chance outing to an amusement park with a friend changed everything. We watched a 3D movie, and as I saw vibrant, lifelike images through those special glasses, I felt my inner world opening up. The most profound realization was, “There’s so much beauty in the world.” Depressed individuals often struggle with anhedonia, the inability to find pleasure in things they used to enjoy. To counter this, help them reconnect with the beauty of life. Share uplifting songs, entertaining videos, or engage in activities together. Sometimes, a single moment is enough to reignite their passion for life.

Encourage Physical Activity

For those with mild depression, exercise, particularly running, can be a rapid mood enhancer. Regular runners often experience a sense of euphoria due to the release of endorphins. These endorphins can significantly improve mood. Outdoor running also connects them with nature, which reduces stress and improves mood. However, getting someone with depression to exercise can be a challenge. Offer to accompany them and say, “I know you may not want to go out alone, but I can join you.” This gesture can serve as a warm motivator.

Seek Professional Help

For severe depression, self-help and the support of loved ones may not be enough. Professional help is crucial and comes in two forms: medication and psychological counseling. Doctors may prescribe medications tailored to the individual, and counseling sessions provide targeted guidance. However, many depressed individuals abandon treatment prematurely. In such cases, your encouragement can be a lifeline, reminding them that you believe in their resilience.

Patience Is Key

Fighting depression is a lengthy journey, marked by ups and downs. One moment, they may seem positive and normal, and the next, they’re plunged into sadness. Don’t expect a quick fix; genuine recovery from depression often involves setbacks and takes time. Your patience is their last line of defense. It signals that no matter how long it takes or how many relapses occur, you’ll stand by their side, offering warmth and support. This patience can provide the strength and hope they need to endure the toughest times.